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For all the gays....
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Recent votes here in Alabama have added an amendment to the state constitution banning gay marriages. However, I have something to say about it.
Get married anyway. Who cares if it's not legally recognized by the state or country? Have a ceremony, buy rings, send out invitations, have an elaborate ceremony, have a reception, and go on a honeymoon. Keep wedding photos in a book and hanging on a wall like everyone else. You don't need a justice of the peace, or even clergy from your particular religion. Just find someone of authority - your own father, if need be - to preside over you. If marriage is a social construct, be the society that constructs it anew. The first concession to black equality in America was "separate but equal"; you can travel the same path to acceptance by first demonstrating that gay couple's commitments to each other can work.
Don't call your loved one your life partner or mate; say husband or wife. Have joint checking. Instead of waiting for the government to allow gay couples to inherit each other's fortunes in case of death, write it in your will, explicitly, and keep it up to date. Buy a house, invite neighbors over for barbeque, and be embarrassed by your flaming gay acquaintances, like anyone else would.
Maintain healthy lifestyles. Talk openly about your husband or wife, no matter your gender, and reject anyone's claims that it's not real. Of course it's real, it's as real as any other marriage whose participants make vows to each other for commitment and love, whether the state recognizes it for their own legal purposes or not.
Forget about state-sponsored marital status and make your own. You'd pay more taxes anyway. It's a tough journey, and you won't get extra rights, privileges, or even recognizance from the government. It's a tough road, but that doesn't matter. In the end, no one can keep you from being married but you.
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People are unfair, cruel and callous. The best way to fight this discrimination is to be better people... live and love in a way that makes people covet your relationship. Be bigger than the smallest of them, and place your relationship so far beyond their petty slings and arrows that they can't reach you with the things they would choose to hurt you with.
This revolution is going to take some time... but it's going to happen, whether the fundamentalists like it or not. I'm sorry... I cast my vote. But we've just got to wait a few years for some very bigoted people to pass away, and for the new batch of kids to reach voting age. Once they do... it's over... once, and for all.
brodycatsmouth's journal...Recent votes here in Alabama have added an amendment to the state constitution banning gay marriages. However, I have something to say about it.
Get married anyway. Who cares if it's not legally recognized by the state or country? Have a ceremony, buy rings, send out invitations, have an elaborate ceremony, have a reception, and go on a honeymoon. Keep wedding photos in a book and hanging on a wall like everyone else. You don't need a justice of the peace, or even clergy from your particular religion. Just find someone of authority - your own father, if need be - to preside over you. If marriage is a social construct, be the society that constructs it anew. The first concession to black equality in America was "separate but equal"; you can travel the same path to acceptance by first demonstrating that gay couple's commitments to each other can work.
Don't call your loved one your life partner or mate; say husband or wife. Have joint checking. Instead of waiting for the government to allow gay couples to inherit each other's fortunes in case of death, write it in your will, explicitly, and keep it up to date. Buy a house, invite neighbors over for barbeque, and be embarrassed by your flaming gay acquaintances, like anyone else would.
Maintain healthy lifestyles. Talk openly about your husband or wife, no matter your gender, and reject anyone's claims that it's not real. Of course it's real, it's as real as any other marriage whose participants make vows to each other for commitment and love, whether the state recognizes it for their own legal purposes or not.
Forget about state-sponsored marital status and make your own. You'd pay more taxes anyway. It's a tough journey, and you won't get extra rights, privileges, or even recognizance from the government. It's a tough road, but that doesn't matter. In the end, no one can keep you from being married but you.
(Please distribute, link and repost this message as much as you like.)
Added by me
People are unfair, cruel and callous. The best way to fight this discrimination is to be better people... live and love in a way that makes people covet your relationship. Be bigger than the smallest of them, and place your relationship so far beyond their petty slings and arrows that they can't reach you with the things they would choose to hurt you with.
This revolution is going to take some time... but it's going to happen, whether the fundamentalists like it or not. I'm sorry... I cast my vote. But we've just got to wait a few years for some very bigoted people to pass away, and for the new batch of kids to reach voting age. Once they do... it's over... once, and for all.
