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Feb. 6th, 2002
You are Rubber, I am Glue...
Feb. 6th, 2002 07:48 pmYou know, I don't think true friendship is based on whose list you are on or whether someone has added you back. Considering that it's possible to make "friends-only" posts that don't go to all of your friends, it's almost a joke for people to think that reciprocation in the friend-adding process is important. Apparently, there are people who find that being on someone's posted list is more important than whether they are actually friends or not.
I find this seriously twisted.
I will repeat: I may read your journal on a daily basis, never comment on your posts, and never add you to my friends list. I have very little to hide, personally, so it is EXTREMELY rare for me to make a friend's-only post. I think I have made six in my entire time on livejournal. Whether I include you to view a certain post might have to do with whether I think you want to hear what I have to say, whether it would make you uncomfortable to hear that info, or whether I'm including allowing ANYONE other than the intended target of that post to see it. I have friends filters that have ONE name on them. Multiple filters that do. Were you to gauge my friendship with you by whether you can see my private posts, then I guess we really didn't have much friendship to begin with.
I know most of you are acquaintances. I know most of you barely know me as anything other than a funnyman and a partybeast. If you want to include me in your private thoughts, then I salute you and will enjoy sharing in your life experiences. But if you judge that decision based on whether I have or have not added you to MY list, then you are making a petty and superficial error.
I find this seriously twisted.
I will repeat: I may read your journal on a daily basis, never comment on your posts, and never add you to my friends list. I have very little to hide, personally, so it is EXTREMELY rare for me to make a friend's-only post. I think I have made six in my entire time on livejournal. Whether I include you to view a certain post might have to do with whether I think you want to hear what I have to say, whether it would make you uncomfortable to hear that info, or whether I'm including allowing ANYONE other than the intended target of that post to see it. I have friends filters that have ONE name on them. Multiple filters that do. Were you to gauge my friendship with you by whether you can see my private posts, then I guess we really didn't have much friendship to begin with.
I know most of you are acquaintances. I know most of you barely know me as anything other than a funnyman and a partybeast. If you want to include me in your private thoughts, then I salute you and will enjoy sharing in your life experiences. But if you judge that decision based on whether I have or have not added you to MY list, then you are making a petty and superficial error.
Sometimes it makes me very sad to look back through my pictures. I find pictures of some of my best friends and wonder where it all went wrong. Two years ago, I had a great deal of the life that I wanted.
Hold on a minute...
Hell, I KNOW where it went wrong... people either couldn't get along with other people, or had to get into some verboten booty.
*grumble*
Hold on a minute...
Hell, I KNOW where it went wrong... people either couldn't get along with other people, or had to get into some verboten booty.
*grumble*
